Hijabi Issues.

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I'm not one to force anything on anyone - but as Muslims we are ordered to follow the orders and laws given by the Quran and our beloved prophet - so in some ways we really don't have a choice in what we wear. Basically you either do it and follow Allah's order- or you choose to not to.

And i know many people say that Jilbab (abaya etc) are 'Arab' clothing and therefore are not practical for everyone of every culture - but our Prophet was Arab. Allah ordered us to cover in a certain way. The Prophet put this into practice. We are ordered to follow our Prophet because he is the best of mankind and knows what is right. He was sent to ALL mankind - not just to the Arabs. So to say jilbab/abaya is only for Arabs to wear is wrong - ALL rulings and all guidance given in Islam is for ALL people of all NATIONS. (i didint say that we'd have to wear 'abaya' all the time, but it is better for us to wear a very loose garments so that we are covering our bodies from non-maharam men outside there....)

Some of my fav abaya..but these would be nicer if the chest is totally covered..(wish to have this.but its a bit expensive.Hubby, can i have one?)

 

So i think whether it is Jilbab, Abaya, Chador, Long Skirts, Long Dresses - Outer clothing of a non-form fitting kind etc.. i think the idea remains the same. we are meant to cover ourselves in a cloak of some sort that hides our body. So this evidence is really bringing home the fact to me that pants are a no-no when it comes to the hijab stakes because they are form fitting.

I used to wear pants and so on when i first started my hijabi path and now I feel ashamed and embarrassed for all the stupid excuses i gave Allah and myself for wearing them. When i look back i can't believe the stupid excuses i had for wearing what i did.. there is no way i would ever say it to Allah on Judgement day. Of course at first i didnt have a lot of  appropiate clothing (in Malaysia is like baju kurung, blouse panjang etc), but after my mum bought me an abaya from Mecca, then i found myself still wearing pants and fit shirts, and  keep giving excuse after excuse.-- Some of the excuses; "I'm not ready for an appropiate clothing.. Jilbab is not for everyone... I am too young to wear Jilbab..", "I'm a teen, i have to be stylish and modest." and so on..

When i look back now i realise that i was just giving myself excuses after excuses for doing the wrong thing and i see how uneducated i was in this particular part of my Islamic knowledge. Now i know and understand some people are under different circumstances that limit them to what they wear.. but for me i had no excuse for myself other than the ones i made for myself. 

Narrated Umm Atiyya: We were ordered to bring out our menstruating women and screened women to the religious gatherings and invocation of the Muslims on the two Eid festivals. These menstruating women were to keep away from the musalla. A woman asked, "O Messenger of Allah! What about one who does not have a jilbab?". He said, "Let her borrow the jilbab of her companion".

 
See? The Prophet (s) said clearly that they were to come outside and wear Jilbab and if they didnt have one they were to borrow one - he didn't say "oh thats ok.. if she doesn't have one she can come in whatever she wants or feels comfortable in - wear your hipster jeans if you want." 

Are you covering properly? Are you making sure your assests are concealed and not merely covered in fabric? Because there is a difference between covered and concealed. Covered could be taken as you wearing head to toe tight lycra that may hide your skin but doesnt hide the curves of your body. Concealed on the other hand means that you cant see them - they are hidden from view. InsyaAllah. Hijab, wear it right, wear it proudly...

Muslimah, dont be like this...

It is ur choice to wear whatever that u want to wear. But please wear a bit lose than ur body shape.. That would be nicer... MashaAllah..

>>>>>copied and editted from hegabrehab.blogspot.com. Further info, u can visit urself. Thanks.. The abaya's pic is from abayacouture.blogspot.com.

Some responsibilities of the Husband and Rights of the Wife...

Here i got some informations about the duties of a Muslim Husband.I would like to share this with all of u. Hope these informations are beneficial to all esp for those who are getting married. Hahaha. (I will, soon, InsyaAllah.. :D ) For muslim husbands out there, YOU should follow some of the guides below which that our Prophet (s) gives to us. 

   “The first and worthiest condition of marriage to be fulfilled by the husband is to keep promise or promises he made to the wife at the time he married her” This is an order of the Prophet s.a.w.. He cannot order her(wife) to do anything that is against the religion. 

1.       He must exercise patience and be prepared to listen her advice in every situation. She invites him to wake up and perform the late night prayer, it is praiseworthy for him to do so and vice-versa.

2.       He must respect her and pay attention to her needs so that she will respect him and pay attention to his.

3.       He must control his passions and act in a moderate manner especially in the context of sexual intercourse.

4.        He must never ever divulge the secrets of the household and those of the married couple.

5.       He must strive with sincerity to acquire her trust and seek her welfare in all actions that pertain to her.

6.       He must treat her generously at all times. The Prophet(s) said that the best gift or charity (sadaqa) is that spent on one’s wife.

7.       If she works outside the house, it is praiseworthy for the husband to hire house help to relieve her from too heavy a burden. 

8.       He must avoid excessive jealousy and remember that Allah is also jealous that he himself not commit.

9.       He must protect her honor and not place her in situations where it is comprimised or belittled. The Prophet(s) said that Allah will not ever let him enter Paradise who cares little who shares his wife’s privacy. 

10.   He must also exercise patience and forgiveness in the case of disagreement or dispute, and not rush to divorce. The declaration of divorce is a grave matter indeed, and the Prophet (s) said: “Of permitted matters the most pathesome before Allah is divorce.

11.    He must not dwell on what he dislikes in his wife, but on what he likes.

12.   The husband is not to stay away from his wife or keep his wife in a state of suspense, whether at home or abroad, for a protracted period of time except with her consent. Allah said: “Turn not away (from your wife) altogether, so as to leave her hanging (not touching her). This is sufficient grounds for her to obtain divorce from the judaa. The Prophet (s) said: “Do not beat your wife.” He also said: “Do not strike your wife in the face.” The expiation for striking one’s slave in the face is to set him free on the spot, but what expiation is there for striking one’s wife? The Prophet (s) condemned the man who beats his wife in the day and then approaches her at night.